Once upon time, I was really struggling. I was going through my chaotic life on autopilot; oblivious to my unhealed parts, limiting beliefs, codependency and ADHD. I had a habit of betraying myself so that I could fit in and feel a sense of belonging with friend groups, relationships, and company cultures that I instinctively knew weren’t right for me, but invested a lot of time and energy in anyway. I lived with chronic self doubt, anxiety, imposter syndrome and automatic negative thoughts that seemed to play on a loop in my head. It was exhausting. As a result, I adopted many unhealthy coping skills along the way, that in the end, only proved to cause more harm than good.
Simply put, I was not living my best life. I recognized this and tried (unsuccessfully, I might add) for many years to “get it together” on my own, not realizing that my mindset and the way that I internally talked to and thought about myself needed a complete overhaul. I kept spinning my wheels believing that if only I could become more of a morning person or lose 10 pounds, or cut back on wine, or get a promotion at work, I would be “happy”. But like a game of whack a mole, something always seemed to pop up that I thought if “I could just” then everything would fall into place. But it never did.
As a helping professional myself, I reluctantly put off seeing a therapist or a life coach of my own, because foolishly, I thought I should be able to solve my own problems and that other people had it way worse than me. Who was I to take up space and community resources? Not to mention, my ego did not like the idea of being vulnerable and confronting difficult emotions. I didn’t realize then how much my ego was calling the shots in an effort to “keep me safe” because even though my life was dysfunctional, it was familiar and all I had ever known. But like Einstein said, the definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
Engaging in therapy and life coaching turned out to be a game changer for me on so many levels. It was around this time that I was officially diagnosed with ADHD and once I realized that I was not in fact lazy, crazy, or stupid and that my brain just worked differently, I was able to see myself in a new light. My therapist also pointed out my patterns of codependent tendencies and how this mentality and mindset kept me focused on others and external circumstances as a way to distract and validate myself. Once I knew that ADHD and codependency were impacting my mental, emotional, and behavioral health, I began to get real curious and went down many rabbit holes learning all I could about adult ADHD in women and codependency. I wanted to gain the knowledge and skills to best manage the two so that I could get out of my own way and stop self-sabotaging and feel good!
So, that’s what I did and now I want to help others achieve emotional freedom by overcoming negative thoughts, limiting beliefs, unhealthy habits, and the big emotions holding you back from living your best life through mindset coaching, hypnotherapy, and energy work.